Many people want to know the secret of how to influence people, seeing the fact that not only is it beneficial for them, but is also a good way to build character and relationships as well.
There are numerous ways on how to handle influence and what it can do to people, but there are certain fundamental yet very effective ways on how to try and influence other people.
First fundamental rule about how to influence other people is to know that first, it is important to consider that influence is not about self, it is recognizing the fact that one is being considerate of others and conscious about their state of affairs.
Selflessness is not about submitting oneself to the idea of giving up one’s individuality, but it is recognizing others and being sensitive also about their needs and wants.
Second fundamental rule of influence is being mindful of not criticizing others, especially
in resisting the urge to complain or condemn others indiscriminately.
Rule of thumb is that you rarely find people wanting to be criticized, regardless of whether what they have done is wrong or right, or whether criticism is constructive or destructive – no one wants to be criticized.
Recognizing this, one must be aware that criticizing is always pointing a finger at somebody and telling them right in the face that what they did is wrong, no matter how much it is packaged or euphemized.
Also the same goes with complaining and condemning, since it brings out the defense mechanism with others and builds resentment, as well as hurt self- esteem.
In order to succeed in gaining the most influence out of others, positive reinforcement is the key, instead of pointing out what is wrong and what is obviously their own fault.
The third fundamental rule is the selfless act of always giving honest and sincere appreciation of others, especially for those that have done the right thing.
This creates a morale boosting sense of accomplishment and want, reinforcing and further encouraging others in not having to be forced to succeed in doing what is socially acceptable and politically correct.
Next fundamental rule is getting to arouse in others an eagerness or desire to be passionate about one thing or an idea about something.
By doing this, one needs to be genuinely interested in others, a trait which bespeaks of selflessness and being considerate of other people.
Another fundamental rule is knowing how to bring out the best in others. This means that by doing so, a person must know how to encourage others to be more confident of themselves and know how to take control of life’s situations.
It is by helping them understand that importance of having good self –esteem and allowing others to value their own worth and, as well as their sense or pride and achievements.
Be a good listener.
The fact that a person is willing enough to listen, makes them good enough to take control of the situation.
Being able to listen is a true test of leadership and will make one understand the importance of how it means to influence other people.
Lastly, be able to admit making mistakes. Do not force yourself into believing that everything you do is right.
So always try to remember that to know how to influence people, one must also know how to give in to selfless acts.